LOVE and other catastrophes

It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, life buzzes around and continues in little circles of pain and heartbreak and lust and love. Sitting in a coffee shop watching passers by . Their touching. Their togetherness. It is the same all over the world. It doesn’t matter who people are, or where they come from, everyone has the same issues at some time or another. Essentially we are all looking for love, we all want to be fulfilled in life, and we all want to succeed in some way. We search for the meaning of life. Many of us search for meaning through our relationships with others.

In life we all meet people, we all fall in love, and we all experience heartbreak. It can leave us feeling lost and in a tunnel that seems like it has no end. It can break us and make us empty. It can lead us into a darkness that we feel we can never get out of. But if we don’t have the heartbreak, we can’t have the love. And my how beautiful love is.

All over the world people in love have stars in their eyes and smiles on their faces. They walk down the street holding hands, they cuddle in doorways and passages, they kiss under the moonlight and they whisper in coffee shops. Love lifts people up and makes them feel invincible. It gives them wings and makes them feel on top of the world. Why then when it ends do people feel so devastated? We were lucky enough to experience love even if for only a brief moment in time. We should be grateful, give thanks, and appreciate the amazing experience that we were lucky enough to have. For love, with all its might and glory, is the best thing on earth!

This is what fascinates me about love.

It is the magic of experiencing the butterflies and the hesitation. The getting to know someone, and the ticking over that goes on in your brain as you try to visualize if their interests match with your lifestyle. I love the first kiss. The nervousness and the anticipation. The expectation of a call the day after, or of a text saying “thanks for a great night”. I love it when someone touches your skin for the first time and it makes you get goose bumps, or it lights you up from the inside and your body begins to heat up. I love it when you feel close enough to someone to let them in and you trust them and you start to feel that little pang that indicates that you think you like them and you want to let them get closer. You might start to worry that they might not like you back. And then you run away or you jump right in. You take a leap of faith and you fall down the rabbit hole that we call love and if you’re smart you never look back. You live it. You love it. You enjoy it for what it is. And when it disappears you pick yourself up, you dust yourself off, you thank the universe for letting you have such a great feeling and then you get on with life and wait for the next nervous fantastic fascinating encounter with a completely new and exciting person. And the best thing is… each love is never the same!